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March 2012 – Darby Rae

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The Key to Succeeding is Lying

The average person lies over 100 times a day. When I heard that statistic, I was horrified! Maybe the research was done on convicts, or toddlers…but certainly not the average citizen, right? Wrong. Fortunately or unfortunately for society, it is also true the average person lies more to themselves than to others.

One morning I decided to keep track of my lies. By 8:15 I was up to 9 lies. Here were some of them:

  • I can sleep 20 more minutes and still be on time. (I told myself that lie twice)
  • I have nothing to wear today. (Big lie)
  • Coffee is all my body needs for breakfast. (Conflicts with lie #5)
  • I can’t keep up with all my email. (Closest thing to the truth I’ve told so far)
  • I’m going to eat healthy today. (Ended up being a lie)
  • I don’t have the time or energy to workout. (Only true because of lie #1, #3)

Doing some quick math, if I was going to be awake for another 14 hours, I was likely an above average liar. Not necessarily bad, but in my early morning lying spree, most of my thoughts were negative. This was not a surprise since typically, 78% of our thoughts are negative; not good either. Is this where the cliché, we are our own worst enemy, comes from?

I could just as easily have started off the day with a positive stream of lies. Keeping in mind, a lie is something that isn’t true…yet.

  • I have plenty of time and energy to do everything I need and want to do today.
  • It’s going to be a fabulous day.
  • Money comes easily and frequently to me.
  • I am a calm and peaceful person.
  • When I travel, everything goes smoothly.
  • I am a tri athlete in training.
  • I am a bestselling author.

Seth Godin, in his recent blog, Conflicted,  tells about the conflict between I and me. John Rosso, in his recent keynote address at Sandler Training’s Client Summit in Orlando, Florida spoke about the Battle of Beliefs between a buyer (prospect) and a seller (salesperson). Rhonda Byrne, in The Secret, teaches about The Law of Attraction and the power of affirmations. In all instances the experts point out the power of positive self talk, or affirmations. Therefore, the challenge with these internal conversations or statements is not whether they are true or false (a lie); it is whether they are positive or negative.

If you are going to lie to yourself, you might as well make them work for you. Tell yourself you are the best in the world at what you do. Tell yourself success comes easy. Tell yourself you are beautiful inside and out. Some days you’ll feel like it’s true, other days it feels like a lie. Nevertheless, make a commitment to start each day with a good breakfast and ten big lies…then watch your dreams become reality.