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Bumblebees and The Little Engine That Could – Darby Rae

Bumblebees and The Little Engine That Could

Did you know a bumblebee cannot fly?  According to recognized aero-technical tests, the bumblebee cannot fly.  The shape and weight of his body in relation to the total wingspan makes it impossible.  But the bumblebee doesn’t know this, so he goes on and flies anyway.  Sometimes, ignorance is bliss, isn’t it?

It makes me wonder what people could achieve if nobody told them they couldn’t.  Think of the Little Engine That Could…I think I can, I think I can.  Not I think I can right after I calculate an algorithm with wind speed, incline metrics and combustion force of my coal burning engine…no…I think I can, I think I can…I know I can…

If the story were written the way we raise our children (or how we talk to ourselves), the title would be different.  It might be…

  • The Little Engine That Could, Until His Mother Explained Why He Couldn’t
  • The Little Engine That Could, Until the Teacher Taught Him Mathematically Why He Would Fail
  • The Little Engine That Could, Until Her Peers Convinced Her It Was Too Risky
  • The Little Engine That Could, Until His Coach Told Him There Was Too Much Competition.

The Little Engine That Could is a great story.  It teaches our children, at a very young age, if the Little Engine could…they can too…then we spend the next 16-18 years educating them on why they can’t…right?  And those ‘tapes’ play in our heads (in surround sound) throughout our adult life.

I have four children and I made it a personal rule to never crush their dreams, not even when my son, Ben, came home in second grade with a button that said ‘when I grow up I will be a Sumo wrestler.”  His father is 5’9”; I’m 5’5’.  Chances of him being a sumo wrestler when he grew up were less than not good.  (However, this was an improvement from two years prior, when he wanted to be a fire truck…yes a truck…not a fireman…a fire truck.)  I am pleased to report, at 13, Ben has a different aspiration.

There are many accounts where mathematically, historically or realistically a goal that was set should not have been achieved, but it was.  Sometimes we are too smart for our own success.  We calculate the risks and probabilities.  We educate ourselves on every possible roadblock and systematically place them in our own way.  Or worse, we possess that one self-limiting belief that always limits our success.  Lynn Zettler of LifeAction Coaching refers to this as “Your Big But.”

If you asked 100 successful coaches—business coaches, life coaches, athletic coaches—I bet they’d agree.  We limit our own success more than any external factor.  My dream is to be a best-selling fiction author.  Do you know how many best-selling fiction novels are on the market today?  How much competition there is?  How long it typically takes an author to achieve this goal?  Me either.  It doesn’t matter.  I’ve stopped calculating the possibilities.  Won’t you join me in conquering your dreams?

Comments

  1. Eva (Grandma) says

    I am so proud, Darby. And, yes, you can achieve your dreams and goals if you just try. I’ve seen you do it. God has given you many talents, and I know you give Him all the praises. Along with your achievements, you are one very funny person – very quick wit. You are fun to be with, beautiful, creative, and much more. I’m not good at expressing myself like you. Your subject of bumblebees made me smile – not only because it is so true how we often time can accomplish things by not thinking that we can’t – but also that I have a plaque on my upstairs wall that says that very thing. It is a wooden plaque about 20 years old or older. Wishing you well…and being proud to say that ‘I know an author’. Love, Eva

    • Thank you so much Eva. I don’t know how many times I read your Bumble Bee plaque over the years, but it was my inspiration for this blog!I don’t know how many times I read your Bumble Bee plaque over the years, but it was my inspiration for this blog! Such a great visual that everyone can relate to. Thank you so much for your kind words and belief in my success, Eva. Much love, always!

  2. Todd (a.k.a. Big Dog) says

    As I sit patiently waiting for the release of your first book I find myself not only proud to know you as a friend, but also filled with excitement for you and your future. I cannot wait to see your dream to be a published author become reality. Having been fortunate enough to know you over the years I have seen firsthand your ability to communicate positively while interjecting personal humor into everything you do. Your books are certain to share that same wonderful spirit with others around the world. Please keep the mystery and belly laughs coming! God Bless you and your continued endeavors.

    You’re awesome!

    Love Todd

    • Todd…I laugh when I read your post thinking…I am sitting almost violently impatient waiting for the release! This one took a long time because the team I put together is as obsessive as I am. Although I have learned how to shorten the process (ah-hem, resist my urge to micromanage), I still must warn you–you’re helping with the next novel…so get your red pen and reading glasses ready! Big hug!

  3. No doubt about it Its a God thing!!!
    Good Luck with all your dreams Darby!!!
    See :0) they come true if your really really good
    and you are really that good!!!
    Can’t wait to get a copy
    i have a book of poetry I wrote but that is under
    Jacqueline Wright :0)
    Peace Hope you do signing
    So excited for you !!!!
    Love me

    • I continue to count my blessings, Summer, they are endless! And a book signing in Salem, MA would be incredible…you have quite a strong network of artist there. We’re looking into coming during the Jazz and Soul Fest. Hanging out with Summer–this Summer! Soundl like a great plan. Peace to you!

  4. Hi Darby!

    Love this post! It is sooo true!

    I’m sooo excited about your book! I can see why the wait would be painful… Hummmm “pain”… does that remind you of our Sandler daze (I mean days)??? I’m still working to reprogram myself… LOL.

    I’m so happy that you reconnected with me. It sounds like you are veryyyy happy these days! Me too!

    Let’s talk sometime soon and catch on things!

    Big Hug!!!
    Troyann

  5. Love this post. You are singing my song. In fact, I’m launching “The Possibility Thinking Movement” on April 1st… seems appropriate! I’d like to feature you as a Possibility Thinker and turn people on to your blog & book. Can’t wait to get the autographed copy I already ordered.
    Congrats on creating new possibilities in your life.
    Your friend,
    Merit

  6. Darby,
    I can’t wait til your book is published! The first chapter just isn’t enough and I can’t wait to read it. Love your thoughts on The Little Engine that Could. It really reminded me of all the times that I had read it to my sons (who were quite obsessed with trains at the time).
    Congratulations and have fun with it!
    Joyce

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